There Are Times When Comparison Can Be Good

I’m a huge proponent in shouting out the mantra - “never compare yourself to others”.  Comparing often leaves us at a huge disadvantage.  We only set ourselves up, to fall short.

BUT, the thought occurred to me recently, that sometimes, comparison can be a motivator, an energizer, and a catalyst for change. WHEN used in the right way.

For example - if we compare where we are today, with where we were a year ago, 5 years ago, or 20 years ago.  If we look at phases and stages of our lives when perhaps, we were happier, more creative, more engaged with others, or feeling like we were truly living in our “gifting”. 

It may be, that we no longer live in those phases and seasons. So, it can be helpful, to compare our ‘today’ with our ‘yesterday’ and see why that is.  Maybe we need to adjust something in our lives, go back to something that brought us joy, or kickstart doing something generous or motivating that breathes life back into our days.

THIS kind of comparison can be healthy and life-giving.

Another kind of comparison that can be positive, is if we compare attitudes.  If we compare our attitude with someone else who has gone through a similar situation or circumstance than us. Or maybe it’s one that we know is in our future - like facing the empty nest, going through a surgery, or dealing with some other change that we are likely to encounter. 

If we see a positive attitude in someone else, an attitude that uses something for growth, instead of self-pity; this can motivate us to change our own views, outlook, and attitude into something that becomes more of a strength in our life, instead of a weakness.

THAT kind of comparison is good.

So, even though I have, and strongly do feel that most comparisons are harmful; I do feel that some comparisons can be just the catalyst for change that we need in our souls, and in our lives.

We are always watching and observing each other. So why not use those observations to propel us to become more joyful, encouraging, generous, and emotionally strong people? Why not use them to help us and not harm us?

If you feel drawn to comparing yourself to others, think about why. And make sure that the comparisons you look at, only lift you up and inspire you to be better - never to tear you down.

Those are the only kind of comparisons we should leave room for in our lives.